It seems like only yesterday that we had our last Manview observation where Steve got all controversial and I felt like I had to slap him down a notch. :-p I'm glad the last Manview observation was so well received. Thank you, open-minded readers. I appreciate you not shooting my husband. I am rather fond of him.
Here's another on for
you today. I hope you enjoy it. I had a chuckle reading it. Not being a
guy, I can't say if anything is true or not, so I'll just have to take
his Manview word on it.
It may be a fantasy of all women, weak and strong, to be able to turn a
bad boy into the perfect partner and a lot of romance novels have been
written on this fantasy. I am amazed how many women I have met who have
an irreconcilable view on the ‘perfect’ man. He is tough, forceful,
adventuresome, and most importantly, playful and naughty. But that is
all supposed to change once he is in a committed relationship,
right? And to get there, the heroine in most of these romance
novels is just the person to affect that change, right? Well
sorry ladies, but that is not going to happen. He is still going to be
a man’s man and will likely cheat on you. These are bad boys who cannot
And now let’s discuss the more sensitive types of male heroes (like Mr.
Manview) who are just broken from having suffered PTSD after being a
special forces hero, or the man suffering from a recent divorce or in a
bad relationship (all the fault of the ex, right?), or the man who is
otherwise perfect, but cannot resist the attractiveness of his
co-worker who is smart, pretty, successful and athletic (probably even
an ex-Olympic champion). These blokes are just asking to be fixed,
right? WRONG! We (yes, that goes for Mr. Manview also) do not want to
be fixed! Hell, being fixed would mean there was something
wrong with us in the first place and we know that is not the case. We
have our fantasies also and they don’t start with us thinking we are
broken. In fact, we want to turn the tables; we want to fix you! All
the Sabrina types, the types who have not had a chance to succeed
because of their situation until they met us and we decided we were the
road to their salvation. We want to be saviours, not saved.
Most of us want to fix you, not be fixed by you!
What we want is to be seduced – but not obviously. Let us think we are
the ones making the right moves. Let us think we have the upper hand,
even though we don’t. Let us think we are smart, successful, athletic,
even when we are not. When you seduce us, you get a better
outcome. You get someone who is so in love and hot for you
that we insist on fixing ourselves. That is what men do – they fix
themselves! That is how permanent change occurs and we become the love
of your life. Seduce us, don’t fix us and we are
yours! We just need to be shown the light and the light comes
through seduction, not some program to fix us.
When I, as a man, read romance, seduce me; in fact, better yet, let me
believe I am seducing you! That is the type of romance for which Mr.
What do you think ladies? Do you think a man will fix himself for you?
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